You never have to guess where Alexi Wasser stands on an issue. She is outspoken, opinionated and, well, open… to say the least. Alexi is a woman who is in charge of her body and open with her sexuality- and encourages others to follow in her confident footsteps.
Besides being an actress and writer, she created IMBOYCRAZY, a safe place for people to share their relationship problems as well as sexual fears and concerns, and find answers in the form of Alexi’s advice and between-the-sheets wisdom.
How do you define feminism?
I define feminism as being comfortable in my skin, not apologizing for myself, knowing who I am/what I want out of life, sticking up for myself, & enjoying being feminine. It’s innate. I don’t even think about it anymore, but it took me a while to get here. In my teens and early 20s I put men on pedestals. Nowadays it seems as though this generation of woman just IS & DOES- who they want to be & WHAT they want to do. And both men and women seem, more than ever, to be a blend of masculine AND feminine. Sometimes it even seems as though it’s the women who are more masculine.
What is imboycrazy? What do you feel you have achieved with it?
IMBOYCRAZY.COM is a blog where I write about love, sex, dating, life observations, and where I give advice. I even do a call in advice radio show every Wednesday at 9pm PST called BOYCRAZY RADIO. My goal is to make people laugh, feel less alone (through my revealing all my own horror stories) and to inspire people to be the best versions of themselves they can possibly be.
What advice do you have for women who are intimidated by their sexuality?
Don’t be afraid! Wear what you want to wear. Be who you want to be. You’re allowed. You’re sacred. Masturbate. Shave your legs. Realize you’re beautiful and sexy, and throw yourself into the stream of life. Be kind to yourself. Cuz if you don’t love yourself, why should anyone else? You don’t need a perfect body or the looks of a model; you’re sacred and allowed to be here and allowed to exist and are completely lovable just as you are. You don’t need to wear heels or revealing outfits to be sexy. Just hold your head up when you walk down the street or into a room. Be comfortable in your skin. We’re women- we’re so lucky to have the luxury of being feminine and all that goes with it (have babies, dressing up, multi tasking, being emotional, maternal, empathetic, long hair, lipstick, lingerie) and being smart, accomplished, career oriented, power houses! There’s no time to be intimidated by your sexuality. We’re all just gonna die! Enjoy life. Get over it and get a therapist.
What advantages do you think you have because you’re a woman?
We can have babies. We’re soft. Our choice of clothing and undergarments are vast. We can get away with more because men underestimate us.
What can women do to be more supportive of one another?
Don’t take everything so personally and get angry/defensive so easily. Learn how to get over stuff and move forward, instead of talking shit behind someone’s back, smiling to their face and harboring a grudge FOREVER. For some reason, when I work with men, I’ve noticed that they don’t take every little thing personally. And after a misunderstanding or rough day, they move forward and are on to the next thing. We can argue one moment and laugh when it’s all over… For real. Men don’t like rehashing shit over and over and over, whereas woman never really get over the initial problem and continue to want to talk about it/bring it up. See: every single episode of any season of the Real Housewives.
What women inspire you?
Cher, Joan Rivers, Madonna, Tina Fey, Oprah, Chelsea Handler, Caroline Myss, my mom Leslie Knauer, Sarah Silverman, Barbara Streisand, Tina Turner, Ronnie Spector, Carol Radzwell, Amy Poehler, Lisa Vanderpump, Lena Dunham, Parker Posey, so many women I can’t even think of right this moment.
What books or media have had an impact on your life?
Judy Blume & Roald Dahl Books when I was little. Seinfeld, Sex & The City, The Internet in general. Louie, the film Broken English by Zoe Cassavettes, the film Dreams, Modest Mouse, music in general, so many things.
What’s your favorite thing about yourself?